When you were a baby you were so self-confident.

You just screamed until your mother came to you to give you some milk, to change your diaper, to hold you and give you affection. You didn’t worry about how you were looking, whether you had a double chin, or whether your legs were too thick.

You just were

And that is just the way it is, it is your birthright to be self-confident. Just being yourself, you had no stories, nothing negative had been said to you, no fears. No fears of judgment, what people might think of you, no fear of not being good enough, that you are not important. You were just there. You just were. How wonderful would it be if you could go back to that state of mind? Being so in the here and now, not being bothered by your thoughts and beliefs. Just being loved and loving everything and everyone around you. Just doing your things because you feel an urge to do them. Not being bothered by thoughts ‘is this good enough, what will people say…’

What a pity that along the way you lost your innocence, you became so aware of what other people were saying to you. And often times that hurt. Your ego was build up with what you saw around you, what you heard people saying to you. You made meaning out of these things which had been said to you. It created your view of the world, your paradigm.

The real you is just as confident as you were as a baby

Meanwhile, you lost a part of your self-confidence. What a lot of impacts does it have when you are not self-confident? What specific decisions did you make from this place? What would you have done differently when you would have been so self-confident all the time? However, this Ego which you have built up during your life is not the real you. The real you is just as confident as you were as a baby. You Ego is just what you built up and the beautiful thing is you can also break it down like you would peel an onion.

How can you do that? You need to go back to all the things that have been said to you, which gave you a negative feeling and of which you made out a negative meaning. These negative meanings have become your beliefs, your limiting beliefs. Your limiting beliefs are blocking you from reaching the goals you have set for yourself. They sabotage your goals, they make that you are just blocking your success. They make you start to worry, blaming, criticizing, getting sick or hurt, hiding significant feelings, not keeping your agreements, not speaking the complete truth, deflecting compliments.

You need to identify which beliefs you have and where they came from

You need to go back to what has been said to you which was painful for you. You need to forgive yourself and others for the things they have said to you. You need to identify which beliefs you have and where they came from. If you have a clear list of your negative beliefs you can start to work on it and change them, reset them to positive and helping beliefs.

If you would be able to get rid of your limiting beliefs and your insecurity, you would be able to set much larger goals, and be able to reach them! You could just take action to what it takes to do the job you like to do, to start up that business you want. To earn more money, to have a deeper connection with your friends. To just do everything you would love to do. And knowing what you want yourself, not what other people are doing, or expect you to do.

You would just take the responsibility to get what you want.

You would speak about it, you would ask people who could help you further. You would just take every action you could imagine which could take you to your goal, without procrastination. You would be so creative and take risks. You would be so powerful and engaging. You would be loved and respected for who you are. You would only think of possibilities and solutions instead of problems. You would be much bigger than your problems.

You would just make a success of everything in your life. And if your project would fail, you would just see it as an opportunity to grow. You learn from your mistakes and it makes you even stronger in your next project because you know what is working and what is not working. You would just laugh at the mistakes you made. Your belief will be that the more mistakes you make, the more you have learned. The better you could perform in your next big thing. You would be stronger in your vision of how you want to create your life and business. Nothing is impossible for you and you just feel fantastic. You can do everything you want, you know that you are a part of the Universal Power, you have that well in yourself, you are connected to the Universe, to Source or to God, however, you want to name it. If you are connected to your authentic self and to the Universal Power you are immensely powerful, you can design and mold your own life exactly in the direction you want for yourself.

Most people are still fighting with their Ego. It should just be taught at school how you can clean it out how to get rid of your stories, your meanings, your negative filter, so you could just be confident and make your decisions from a place of love instead of hate and insecurity.

If everyone here on earth could heal themselves from their traumas, big and small the world would be a different place. If everyone would be able to meet their needs and goals for their life, they would just be so busy making this world a better place instead of being in competition with other people, organizations, countries…

You have your insecure 8-year-old on your shoulders while doing your work

A lot of people just are afraid of the unknown, they prefer to just do their things like they have done all their life. They do not have the ambition to grow and set goals and take responsibility to change. They are too afraid to dive into their traumas and heal them. However, if you start your own business, you just encounter all these things, all the insecurities which will block you in your success, which will make you stay procrastinating. And you need to clear up your Ego as to be able to be self-confident. If not, you will just have your insecure 8-year-old on your shoulders while doing your work, while being at networking conferences, while having your sales conversations.

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